How would you find out if someone is gay?

[BlueRayman]

I'd say I've got fairly good gaydar myself. I'd say you can tell by picking up a mix of things but mainly body language and clothing.

- With body language its less about looking for over the top gestures and flamboyant movement but by the fact your/they are putting less effort into looking butch and manly, that whole alpha male thing

- I'd say with clothing its not about the style or type of clothing but the colours (i don't just mean pink) but a greater mix of colours and brighter ones. I'd say again its about not caring about looking butch or manly.

 

My mum has the worst gaydar she just assumes people are really nice or well dressed lol

[teaandyoghurt]

I don't ever presume that anyone is either unless I see definite proof.

I don't care what anyone says, there is no way to 'tell' and there's no such thing as a 'gaydar'.

Assuming someone is (or isn't for that matter) for any amount of 'reasons' is offensive and could potentially be damaging. Their sexuality doesn't matter unless you're fucking them or want to.

 

~Megs

[cloudsilk]

Honestly, you just have to get to know someone. Make sure the bond between the both you is strong enough that you can ask a personal question like that. Some people aren't as open about their personal business.

[BlueRayman]

Without asking you can never be sure but there has to be something to it. When I'd go out more in the past it'd be rare that I'd start chatting to/up a guy I'd rarely pick a straight guy by mistake - which can be really embarrassing and sometimes worse.

 

- Cut me some slack it was when I was younger and I've never been into one nightstands as a rule.

Oh It wasn't just because I was in gay bars lol, my friends are mainly straight so we rarely went to gay clubs.

 

I'm not saying there's some defiant way to tell I was just thinking about my own experiences and why I'd think its safe to approach somebody. In my own case I'm bi and most people don't really notice at first that I'm into guys except for gay/bi guys. It may just be down to how I'm acting at the time or what subconscious/nonverbal signals I'm putting out there.

[Sora Aurakai]

I usually let them tell me first, I don't ask.

[prince yuu]

He could've studyed your movements

[Ani-Rashi]

Dont underestimate the human's intuition. It always reads the signs of someones orientation. So... when you see this someone, you will know.

[Riniya-ki chan]

By his aura I guess =O= (what kind of answer is dat xD), His actions prove that his gay. ^^

[Senri]

Their gesture and allure..!! Somehow gays are more fashionable than most men and they had this certain charm. I dunno how, but I'm somewhat drawn into them. I got the eye for it, as my friends put it. Most of the time I could even tell if the guy or girl swing both ways^_^

[jeno_cide]

i usually look in a someone else's eyes...most of the time u can grasp a little bit awkwardness or werdiness the way that person reacts...moreoever,whenever i walk pass by a guy (throwing suspicious stare at him)and if he happens to stare like more than 5 seconds or so then surely he is gay or bisexual....straight dont stare another guys in a long period of time mostly straight folks do that like 2 or 3 secods but more than that it's a different story...

[itsapanda16]

Some people are more in tune with their senses. I don't know, I think it comes with experience, because I had a friend who kept saying I was gay and kept on asking me out, it bothered me at the time, this was years before I knew I was even bi. I wanna say some people have gut feelings.