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[Guest Yuta]

Before the topic I will first tell a short story basing on my personal experience..

 

*Pardon my English it's not my first language*

 

I met this girl in a cosplay convention and let's name her "Shitbrain".

She introduced her self and all and asked my phone number.

Being a good citizen, I gave my phone number.

 

So, She's texting me for about a month or so. It's cool.

until she suddenly became emo.. and started to tell stories on how her ex-boyfriend used her blah blah blah.. So being her friend, I advice him.. to forget about him because I can somehow relate to it. and she was like "I can't, It's hard no matter I do I can't forget him". I wanna slap her face honestly.. Because she's so immature and she's already like 23 years old. And after few days of her emo stories. I felt something's not right. ShitBrain is falling in love with me. So I wanna clear things up and wanna control the situation.. I called her and told her that I'm 101% Homosexual. She was shocked and she don't believed me.. then I showed her pictures of me kissing someone.. and a lot more.. Because I don't hide my sexual orientation. But then things got worst.

 

she told me that's alright.. You'll be cured really soon..

 

I was like.. what the f*** am I? A fever?

 

She's calling me non-stop and again with her ex-boyfriends stories.. It's really really annoying, and I became blunt to her saying that she need to grow up.. then she replied "I will but help me recover" .. since I was already tired of her.. I said.. "Ok whatever it takes for you to stop".. She told me to pretend to be her new boyfriend.. I don't really like the idea.. because it doesn't make sense. But I want her to stop.. and since I'm 101% sure that I'm NOT hetero.. I said "Fine, but remember.. I'm GAY!! I don't want you to forget that I love p****es NOT V****AS"

 

afterwards.. things got worst..

 

she's telling to the whole cosplay community that I'm her new boyfriend, the thing is.. A lot of people in the cosplay community don't recognize me as a gay dude.. although I'm really open about it.. so yeah.. She even used my picture as her profile picture, so a lot of people already knew about it..

 

It's really embarrassing.. I hate her.. and she's calling me everyday saying that she loves me.. and all.. I wanna kill her because this SHITBRAIN IS SOOO immature and SOO stupid.

 

so I told myself "This should stop" I became rude to her afterwards..

 

there's a lot of things that happened but I'm already fine now.. and I guess you got my point

 

so the topic is..

 

How do you handle a girl who falls in love with you?

 

Share your stories and advice to me I would be glad to read them all..

[YLove]

First of all, thank you for sharing your story!

 

It never happened to me to be chased like that by a girl who is trying to forget her ex, so I don't really know what advice I should give you.

 

If I would be in that situation I would probably do the same thing as you and if she wouldn't stop, I'd change my phone number, tell my friends this whole story and assure them nothing has happened between me and her.

[Yuki]

Try to be distant and try not to answer her calls and messages anymore. Maybe she'll get angry and will leave you alone. :msn_red_fox 7

 

I also had a girl that didn't interested me at all following me everywhere and stalking me.

 

It was in the last year of high school. In a Friday afternoon I went to eat a pizza with a classmate. When we got into the pizza shop, we saw another classmate at a table with 2 friends of his (the girl I'm talking about was one of the 2 friends of his).

 

So we took a seat at their table and my classmate introduced us to his 2 friends, we talked, changed phone numbers etc. After that she started with messages and phone calls and she was waiting for me when I was returning from school. :cuteonion43: In the beginning I answered her messages, but after a while I started to avoid her totally and didn't answer her anymore.

 

The whole stalking lasted about 2 months and she let me alone, I think she got bored.

[YLover]

Sorry that I answer the question being a girl... I was the title of the thread and was too curious and read it. After reading it, I HAVE to give an answer.... :cuteonion53:

 

So, I'm not a boy, but I had a bf that was gay (as you could see in some of my older posts) and he was hiding it from me and was seeing guys behind my back till I caught him. :Red_fox5:

 

So, what I wanted to tell you is first, that it is very good that you told her from the beginning that you are not interested in girls. :hamtaro-005 (6):

But, I can't agree with the fact that you accepted to pretend being her bf. :7yoyo: That could only make her confused and give her hopes that maybe you will love her one day.

 

So, I think the best option would be to remind her about your orientation again and try to avoid her as much as you can and don't give her useless hopes.

[鼠ドル]

Also, sorry for answering and reading even though I'm a girl ^_^''

But yeah, I agree with YLover, pretending to be her new boyfriend was a bad idea, I think that just encouraged her to pursue you even further... I think saying something like "I'm sorry, but I'm really not interested in you.Stop trying to contacting me!" and then... well, ignore her?

When girls/guys I don't like falls for me and hits on me... I just kinda avoid them from the beginning ^__^''

 

I have a guy in my class who kinda hits on everything that moves... And he started on hitting on me too. I just kept telling him things that could only be seen as friends talking and kept away. I mean, can't be rude to him, I just don't wanna hear him whining all the time and trying to hug me T_T So well, being polite but not too kind is an option as well...

[yu]

your brave to tell her that you dont like girls

[K]

. .sorry for not minding your restriction about this thread, i was kinda curious

 

. .and now i know...

 

. .lol (PEACE),

[JuJu]

what a crazy girl...!!!!

 

Stay away from her is the best way to do...or she may harms you...)

 

btw, she just loves you...it's not a sin... you shouldn't call her with such a bad name ( i mean shitbrain.. ), i think!!!

 

(sorry it's just my idea...)

 

Hope she won't disturb you anymore.

[Dei]

Sorry for intruding, too.

 

Accepting her request to be her fake bf isn't a nice move. O.o With the situation in hand, I guess the best thing to do is play S&M: control her and drive her away. I did it before with a guy who candidly loved me, its just that we're good friends, and having a relationship with him will destroy what we have. He was emotionally dependent on me (just like poor Miss ShitBrain is), and was telling me that he will kill himself if I reject him. I just talked to him every once in a while, not to let him know that I am avoiding him. For the calls, divert them, transfer the calls to others? O.o I can relate to you, he followed me around, and the whole campus thought that we were dating. (I lost the chance with the person I like because of that! :\)There's nothing we can do about that. XD Since he plainly followed everything I said, I made him do things that led him to a new prospect. Now, they are on a relationship. I think it will be better not to obviously push her away because that will make her stick on you more. O.o

 

So yeah, just take advantage of what you have, and I hope you can solve this matter. Good luck!

[midniteXfairy]

pardon the intrusion but this lady is fucked up. i have a gay friend and he hates it when a girls hits on him so he just ignores them. he sometimes gets hit on when he is with his boyfriend, he just makesout with him and walks away leaving her shocked and grossed out

[Guest alexander]

thank you for sharing ! *hug

im not as brave as you, i dont know what i would have done :?

[CA]

hahah. pathetic. I think its great you pretended to be her bf then hurt her. she was completely emotionally clingy and insulted your sexuality. I would of made her suffer way more. lucky though girls falling in love with you. alot of people wish they had that power

[nitemare]

Next time a girl hits on you hit her back LMAO

[vanesinger]

That's an awesome story BTW - xD

 

First of all, I hate that girl. How can she say "you'll be cured soon" as if being gay is a fatal disease?! Arrgghh .. I hate girls like her. Now to answer your question, If a girl falls in love with me, and if I have a clue, then I'll quickly tell her to stop it. I'm famous in our school to have a very VERY rude mouth once I'm angered so I think she'll understand xD

 

But if she still tries to "cure" me, then it's time for me to give her a piece of her own medicine.

[rotten boy]

I had a cusin that whent all emo and tryed to get in my pants, try and beak it off. tell her you no long will get her calls and if it come to it tell her you hate her guts, then tell the people at cosplay that the girl is a nutcase. if that did not work then drive her away by any means befor her crasyness rubs off on you. she just looking for someone to be crasy about so you are going to have to get harsh with her.

[JunQ]

Next time a girl hits on you hit her back LMAO

 

Nice move kekekeke

But literally, not a good idea then haha

[Arawn_Bheur]

I agree with the others.

 

Agreeing to pretend to be her boyfriend wasn't something you should of done. You really need to tell her it was a bad idea and that you no longer want to do this charade. Tell her that you don't like and that it isn't true to who you are. If she doesn't respect it, tell her to bugger off. Don't answer her calls and messages.

 

It's rather rude of her to say "you'll be cured", too. God, I hate that. I've heard it in regards to me being trans [and gay] so I can't stand it. There's nothing to be "cured", that's all b.s. >

[yin_yang_lover]

Me too I agree with them! There is nothing to cure! And I hate women like that! And I really don't like her for saying that to you... She should have just left you alone and move on... I know its harsh to say this but you should have told her to fuck off! And never answer her text messages.... I think you added fuel to the fire when you did that. And like you I'm open about my sexuality. I'm gay and proud!

 

And honestly a couple of girls have liked me and asked me out but I told them no way in hell... Laughed at their faces and walked away. I can be very cruel when it comes to some girls. But the point is ignore her and move on with your own life.

[toby2663]

Firstly be honest with her, tell her that you dont need curing you are not sick.Secondly tell her the charade over your relationship finishes now. Thirdly cut all contact with her do you really need some one in your life who values you so little that she treats you in this way.I would also suggest that next time some one hits on you if you are not interested you need to make it very clear, be rude and forceful if you need to be.Also remember you are not responsible for the actions of others only your self so pay no heed to this womans actions and be happy

[Jin.]

 

I knew a girl whom was madly in love with me, although she made stories just about us having a relationship. Even though I'm like: Dude hell, I'm not your lover. O_O

She caressed my leg and all, talking on MSN like: "I'm at my lovers place" and that shit, she used me all the time, plus she used me for my fucking laptop. (She was hanging behind my laptop until 2 AM.)

But its so funny now, she lied her whole life to me and I knew everything afterwards. Also told her to STOP lying to me, and so she barely talked to me.

But the rumor that I am going out with her was still hanging around my fucking school, I told her in a text like: "LMAO someone thinks we're going out"

Now, she totally ignores me and I am air for her.

Guess what, she found another ''lover'' on the internet she doesn't know though.

 

 

Just handle the things slowly, saying: "Lets stop this" you should think about your self and ignore her for a while. If she keeps nagging then say that you don't like it. If she's crying about it then block her or something like that. Because she has to stop though.

[Chupacabre]

I have been in situations a bit like this. First step is to give a straight forward "I don't like you, so stop." which it sounds like you have so the next step is to ignore her, completely. Every time you respond to her in any way you feed the fire, if you stay away from her she'll give up.

On a personal note I would have started ignoring her the minute "you'll be cured" left her mouth...

[Marygrace94]

i'm a girl too.. hmm.. for me, i seconded what you did to her.. that's just the right thing. i don't care if i'm a girl, i shouldn't be biased about this. forcing oneself to others is not good. i mean, HELLO!!! that girl is just soooo stupid.. seriously, she should stop. she must feel ashamed too,, my goodness, !

[Кitty]

I've had plenty of girls stalk me. My first time was with my old bf... anyway i was in my first year of high school... when i realized that theres this girl who keeps staring at me.... i could tell she already had a bf cuase i saw him.... she for real stalked me, she lied that i was in love with her, she even broke up with her bf over me.... i didn't want to expose that i was gay... so i ignored her. Later the second year she left... and that sparked some weird girls following me. So yea thats my "first" story. Theres like a lot more. But I'll wait.