I'm going to 20's soon this coming June~ And I need an advice...

[iamTK]

Hi again here at the forum~ *Gives you guys a warm smile*

 

I just want to ask a few question and give me some advice on it~

I'm 19 right now and in a few months only~ this coming June. I'm going to turn 20's. Okay welcome to the age of adulthood~ Where work, adventure and challenges awaits. A typical adult life in 20's.

 

Since at the age of 17. I am already used at work and had a several experienced on it like being an apprentice baker, private tutor, internet cafe assistant, and my current work right now; event organizer/planner of various cosplay and K-pop event (or any event also) thus giving me the time to earn a lot of funds for myself. I really hate to say it but my parents wouldn't accept my salary that I gave to them. They say it's for me someday so I did obey them and earn all of my salary until now. In short a workaholic person.

 

Ever since I can remember, as a kid I was obsessed with the idea of living alone. I guess it was a fantasy I had from reading a lot of books and taking it a little too seriously. This resulted in becoming a fiercely independent child that turned teen adolescent to now grown man. It progressively got to be a little strange and concerning for some that I had no qualms with being alone and the mere slightest hint of unnecessary socialization would freak me out and feel ultimately, claustrophobic and smothering. I used to ask myself in a hopeful non-conceited way, ‘Ugh, why are these people so obsessed with me?’ of course they probably weren’t obsessed with me, they were just legitimately wanting to hang out like regular people do.

 

I'm not a shopaholic and I am "tightwad" person. I always spend money in helping to buy some of our groceries and needs.

 

So here's the deal and question guys I want about to ask.

 

I want to live by myself. I guess sooner will do~ the reason was half-baked only; Just to experience some challenges in my life.

 

If I want to live by myself? What must consider first?

 

- What type of apartment should I choose?

 

- I can do cook, clean, do chores, and can fully live by myself. What other factor should I consider too?

 

- To some who does lived by themselves. I have a question for you. How do you know when you are living true? How do you feel? What do you notice?

 

- Living alone or roommate?

I hope you guys can help me and give some advice and tips. And thanks in advance.

[Lethalyx]

I guess the answers will differ from a person to another. Here are mines.

 

- What type of apartment should I choose?

--> Nothing bigger than a two-roomed apartment (even a big one-roomed apartment can do). For a first apartment, I don't think it's necessary having a bigger place if you're gonna live alone. You may even find it too big if you're used to live within a 8-member family.

 

 

- I can do cook, clean, do chores, and can fully live by myself. What other factor should I consider too?

--> Obviously DIY (do-it-yourself). You never know what can happen concerning pipes, toilets & so on, so you must be prepared and have a good toolbox!

And also your neighbours. For me, it's an important factor.

 

 

- To some who does lived by themselves. I have a question for you. How do you know when you are living true? How do you feel? What do you notice?

--> "Living true" What do you mean by that?

I feel relaxed, no one underfoot XD I can do whatever I want, whenever I want. But you can unconsciously become solitary (except if you're unsociable, that won't change anything then). That depends on how you consider your place. For me, I don't mind inviting friends, but for one of my siblings for example, their place is like a nest, sacred place, and they can't stand having people in the apartment.

 

 

- Living alone or roommate?

--> Having experienced both, without any doubt, living alone. But there again, that depends on your personality & tolerance when it comes to share common spaces, accepting not having the "peace" you'd like. And that depends on the monthly rent of course. If it's expensive, choosing a good and compatible roommate can be great (that's what I did).

[hyperpandapan]

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- What type of apartment should I choose?

I think it depends on how much you plan to spend, the neighborhood's reputation (crime rate, nearby shops, development to name a few) and if you have animals (like I have 3 cats so even though I'm by myself I can't live in a 1 bedroom since they need more space). So you really need to think about your situation the type of neighborhood you're willing to live in (a cheaper price and larger space may mean a worse neighborhood, and a higher price and less space could mean safer neighborhood or an up and coming neighborhood they are trying to develop so do your research) Also make sure the apartment has been inspected and that you search under EVERYTHING (cabinets, fridge, nooks, and cranny's because you have to see if there are bugs or other gross things )

 

- I can do cook, clean, do chores, and can fully live by myself. What other factor should I consider too?

Money management! (most import if you ask me) Keep track of all daily and monthly expenses in a detailed book. So every so often you are able to go back and see where you are spending unnecessarily and where you can add more money(such as if you have had an excess of money one month maybe split it up into a savings and some into your fun money)

 

- To some who does lived by themselves. I have a question for you. How do you know when you are living true? How do you feel? What do you notice?

I don't live by myself right now but honestly, when I was I don't think I was able to find the answer to this question. I think contentment is the most rewarding thing. Getting home and feeling like you have most things managed and that you'll be ok and that you can do this is the most rewarding thing. Of course, you won't always feel like that but when you do it's great.

 

- Living alone or roommate?

That depends on you. I needed a roommate because I have a horrible fear of someone breaking in and killing me (my mother watched a lot of true crime and lifetime with me when I was little and it left me scarred) but I wouldn't suggest moving in with someone you don't know if you do. Other than that think hard about your own situation and how much personal space you need to be comfortable.